Self Expectations – Where to Draw the Line
Obviously, a certain level of expectations is beneficial. Individuals who have low self expectations tend to do so because they don't feel they can do better. This is often a sign of depression and low self esteem. While individuals with lofty expectations are often happier, at some point expectations can become too high.When considering expectations, the important thing to keep in mind is whether or not they are realistic. If you constantly set goals or expectations that are impossible to achieve, then you will simply be setting yourself up for failure. Doing this on a regular basis is bound to have a negative affect on your ego and self worth. Over time, these failures can compound, leading to excess stress and other symptoms. The Attacking Anxiety & Depression Program can help you manage this stress but also serves to develop strategies to prevent stress gained by observing failures.
How to Set Realistic Self Expectations
The key to finding the right balance of high expectations is to challenge yourself without overextending. For example, if you are a student that continually gets C grades, aiming for all As next semester may be biting off more than you can chew. Instead, it may be more manageable to challenge yourself to get all Bs. Once you succeed in meeting these expectations, you will likely be better prepared to earn As in the future.Setting achievable expectations is not only a great way to meet your goals, but a solid way to build self confidence. With each little success, you prove to yourself that you can and do deserve more. Such a slow and steady plan for action is a great tool for overcoming depression, stress and anxiety disorders.
